Have you ever experienced someone say something rude or inappropriate to another person, or yourself? If you haven’t, consider yourself fortunate. In both instances it is never pleasant. And regardless of if you are a quick-witted person who can appropriately respond to these inappropriate situations or not, it is still an unnecessary indignation for anyone to have to experience. Another unneeded annoyance is a pessimistic person insistent on imposing their views. Again, not a pleasant situation to experience. This type of person has only their dismal perspective to offer any conversation and if allowed, they will disparage, and discourage you into oblivion. A Pessimistic person might argue that the truth hurts, but there is a difference between someone speaking the truth, and a person’s hyper-focus on only the negative aspects of that situation without leaving room for hope and possibility. The difference between speaking the truth and pushing a hopeless narrative is where the disparaging line gets crossed. So, what are we to do about these types of people? Let’s Talk about it!
The Debbie Downer!
Are you familiar with the Saturday Night Live character Debbie Downer? The character Debbie Downer is played by Rachel Dratch. The lyric to the show’s theme song reads:
Your enjoying your day
Everything’s going your way
Then along comes Debbie Downer
Always there to tell you
Bout a new disease
Car accident or killer bees
You’ll beg her to spare you
Debbie please
But you can’t stop
Debbie Downer
by Elaine Caswell
Check out this short video clip of the Debbie Downer show. It helps to illustrate this week’s topic.
What to do about Negative People?
Be Self-Aware - It is a good practice for us all to be mindful of how we ourselves speak, act, and treat others. Be the positive person you want to attract and be around. When making connections with others, try to add value and positivity to the conversation and by doing so it will deter those who do not match that energy. A great way to ward off negative people is to lead by being a positive example.
Boundaries - Asserting boundaries is a great way to let others know what you are ok with, and what you are not ok with. For some people, asserting boundaries may feel uncomfortable at first, however it is an effective approach to dealing with difficult people and situations. Check out below this week’s suggested articles for information on boundaries.
Check Out These Great Articles on This Week’s Topic Below:
9 Ways to Shut the Negative People Out, BetterHelp
How to Set Healthy Boundaries & Build Positive Relationships
5 Jan 2018 by Jo Nash, PhD
Reframing the Concept of Boundaries, the Center for Growth
How to Set Boundaries: 5 Ways to Draw the Line Politely
When Conversation Boundaries are Crossed, Etiquette for the Business of Life
Takeaways
If you haven’t anything nice to say, how about you just be quiet? Life is hard enough without the constant reminding. No matter what we may be going through, we should always leave room for hope. What use is hopelessness to any of us?
As always, my beautiful Tribe, remember to commit yourself daily to caring for and loving yourself, no matter what. We here at The Let’s Talk Tribe are rooting for your continued success. Please like, share, comment, and SUBSCRIBE!
Always With Love,
The Let's Talk Tribe Team
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